Stolen from Holly’s site at: hollytashley.com
Dang, it’s been a rough week. Like really, really frustrating. Domestic violence is a tough gig – but I don’t think I have had a week like this in a long, long time.
Sleepless, restless nights, literally a heart that was so heavy and achy that I thought my statin had stopped working– Dave and I took it to the Lord and His holy Word, and today, I realized why my heart hurt so bad…
And it’s not just the magistrates, law enforcement, DA’s, judges, or the justice system – but by women, men, mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, parents, grandparents who call themselves disciples of Christ – But it’s mostly the church!
By the Pastors… Shepherds, ordained by God to preach the whole counsel of Christ – By church members who sit idly by and refuse to be Paul’s with Timothys, older women without younger women to mentor. No one out on the corners or in the streets witnesses or making disciples.
A lot of conferences and trainings… But very little waging of battle.
Because of their complacency, their un-offensive ‘gospel’ – we are under the wrath of an angry – but righteous God.
Because of the preacher’s complacency, we have (mostly male) offenders who know there is no consequence for their actions. And they are allowed to sit in church, participate in church service, with little or no accountability or church discipline. They are free to be vile human beings simply because they can – After all – the men’s pancake breakfast is a whole month away…
The worst part is that they have been freely allowed to target vulnerable, broken, un-discipled women who will stand by them no matter what.
Yes, I might need a week at the beach. But since Biden is part of our punishment, we can’t afford the towel we need to lay on, let alone the gas to get there – so here I am.
We are a Christian organization. But not like you think.
The world’s idea – the American idea of “Christian” is not truth.
The truth of being Christian… a Christian… is more than identifying as a Christian: with your made up god, and rules that are fluid and ever changing, to assure your prominent societal status, doesn’t offend anyone.
“Woe to you, when all people speak well of you” (Lk. 6:26).
The truth of being a Christian is that you are a disciple of Christ.
And ONLY a disciple of Christ, no other. You are totally surrendered to Him. Obedient to His rules, His commands… His law.
There is no authority but Christ. No king but King Jesus.
NONE. And it might cost you everything.
“If the world hates you, know that it has hated me before it hated you” (Jn 15:18).
Victims come to us because they profess to be Christians and want help. First and foremost, safety. So we try and find them shelter. Secondly to answer the question: “How did I get here?” Sadly, when the latter is addressed with truth, they don’t usually like the answer.
I know I didn’t.
I left the church for 25 years when I was confronted in my sins – all of which were linked to my perpetual state of victimhood.
Offenders choose our program because of the ridiculous view of Christians they have developed in the modern-day church preaching.
They are shocked to realize that we don’t accept the “reckless love,” blasphemy against God– nor do we accept their excuses for their past as the justification for their present behavior.
We abhor their use of the name of Christ in any part of describing themselves. And we inform them that God does NOT “love them right where they are,” and by their “fruit,” we can testify that they are indeed a sinner headed straight for hell.
Frankly, the church and the American justice system might let them off the hook, but God won’t – and neither will we.
That is dangerous to not only their eternal health – but their current wellbeing – because their attitudes and beliefs would never change – leading them to become a danger to society because their behavior – that is driven by their attitudes and beliefs – would only escalate! And let’s talk about the dangers to the body of Christ… Allowing these predators to cry their way back into the church without the least bit of church discipline is not taking care of “orphans and widows.”
“For among them are those who creep into households and capture weak women, burdened with sins and led astray by various passions…” (2 Tim. 3:6).
And thereby you allow the cycle to continue and God’s holy bride to be defiled.
Do you prefer science? Then look it up! It’s proven to be true… but keep on letting them get away with it or let them all out – it’ll be great – just ask NY and Chicago how its working for them.
And don’t try to give me that line of garbage stating that “God loves them…” because that is an outright lie. A holy God, who sent his Son to suffer and die on a cross for the sins of mankind, is not about to allow that blood to become defiled or lessen the sacrifice all because you want to believe in some mystical imaginative idol who is not holy or just.
God’s word declares that He “hates the evil doer” (Ps. 5:5).
Unrepentant sin has no place in the church of God. Light has NO fellowship with darkness. There will be no unrepentant sinner in the Kingdom of God.
Keep the bride holy!
Another excuse I have heard is that making deals to keep offenders out of jail is “saving taxpayers money…”
Taxpayers disagree. We’re all for crime and punishment. As a matter of fact, the latest polls show that crime is #1 on the midterm list of concerns for voters.
Additionally, Christian programming has been empirically proven to have a higher completion rate, and a lower recidivism rate – as well as improve marital commitment and marital satisfaction.
You’d think in the “Bible-belt” we’d be thriving…
There is a fine line between having compassion on victims and also having compassion on the magistrates who are appointed to administer justice. And regardless of public opinion, I do possess compassion – but sometimes it gets hidden beneath the frustration of the unholy charade that is before my eyes.
On ALL sides of the spectrum!
We live in a society that is ruled by (unholy, unconstitutional, and frankly incompetent) organizations and agencies that have no sense of justice because they do not understand biblical justice.
They don’t have an understanding because preachers aren’t preaching Biblical Justice – Who are we kidding – They are not preaching justice at all! The wrath of God has been deleted from their collective vocabulary – as they shake their heads and run to the politicians for advice.
The American Society of the “churched,” has no idea of what Christ meant when He said that He came to fulfill the law – or that “not an iota, not a dot, will pass from the Law until all is accomplished.” Nor do they care to learn what that means – even right here, smack-dab in the Bible belt, where everyone professes, “I am a believer!”
Believer in what exactly?
If we are to win this battle – Somebody needs to pick up the “Sword of truth” and fight!
We have victims who in the same manner that they faithfully attend church; deliberately and decisively marry unholy, irreverent, offenders – then fail to fulfill their responsibility to testify against their abuser – causing magistrates to develop attitudes of complacency.
Can you really blame them?
Here’s a solution: If you dare carry the banner of Christ, don’t marry a non-Christian. “Do not be unequally yoked.” “What does a believer have to do with an unbeliever?”
“He wasn’t like that before we got together”
That’s a load of garbage.
I’ve been in this gig for over 3 decades, having first been abandoned, molested, gang-raped, and repeatedly abused – And the “I didn’t know…” excuse won’t fly with me.
Been there, done that, wrote the book on it – and I have a T-shirt.
It took me nearly a lifetime to realize that although, my little girl me had absolutely nothing to do with abandonment, abuse, molestation, or the gang-rape – My adult woman had everything to do with using my past to justify my choices to defy, rebel, and deny God’s laws, justify and excuse my sins, master the art of manipulation, and take my unrighteous anger out on anyone who dared confronted me.
So, save it for the heretical churches, woke pastors, organizations and agencies –
The truth is: You (and I) rebelled against a Holy God, failed to follow His commands to choose a godly man who loved Jesus more and was committed to a life of cherishing, loving, praying for you and presenting you “blameless” before the righteous God who gave you to him as a gift to respect and treasure.
Repent, and “sin no more.”
Truth. Is. Freedom.
“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly” (Jn. 10:10).
Don’t be the thief in your own life.
Our mission is the Gospel. Our ministry’s mission is the restoration of God’s holy design for the family unit. Where domestic violence, bullying, alcoholism, drug addiction, and every other perversion of God’s holy design for society’s wellbeing begins and ends.
The justice system? Well, the bottom line in domestic violence is this little nugget of truth: No one is going to help you.
“They have all turned aside; together they have become corrupt; there is none who does good, not even one.” (Ps. 14:3).
The church will accept his fake tears as repentance, and he’ll be sitting two rows behind you in the next service. The police will show up but the judicial commission won’t issue a warrant, the DA will cut a deal in the name of “saving taxpayer’s money,” the judge will take the ADA recommendations for a plea deal and … well, you won’t testify anyway, so what does it matter?
Although some of the toughest DV laws have been written – only a few are implemented. Even when a case does come before the court – that is if/when a law enforcement officer (LEO) gathers the information and determines there is probable cause to make the arrest (warning – you’d better not be one of those who doesn’t bruise easily) and is successful in getting a warrant for the monster –
Chances are that the offender won’t be punished. If the offender is a woman, count on absolutely nothing. She will never receive the punishment due – well unless she kills you.
If it is a “he,” he might be mandated to take 8 hours of “anger management,” pay the court costs.
Note: The magistrate will always make sure those fines are paid… secondly, domestic violence is not an anger issue… if you treat it like such, it will only manifest itself elsewhere – like a mass shooting at a post office, nightclub, or school…
Restitution? Not so much – but no worries, he’ll be home in time for dinner.
And if the victim does not abide by their duty to testify – “Case dismissed.”
And rightfully so.
If you refuse to testify – even if there is another witness (like the police, neighbor, roommate, etc) – without your testimony, the case will be automatically dismissed.
Stupid – yes. This affects the next victim he abuses – but that’s the unconstitutional law that they follow, so, that’s how it is.
Biblically – the Bible says, that if these involved (including the victim), do NOT testify, then they themselves have sinned and are therefore due the same punishment.
“If anyone sins in that he hears a public adjuration to testify, and though he is a witness, whether he has seen or comes to know the matter – yet DOES NOT SPEAK, he shall bear his iniquity” (Lev. 5:1).
God means it when He commands us to “love your neighbor” (Mk 12:31).
But we don’t live in a society that believes in a holy and righteous God. We live in a society where people have made a god of their own image that will “understand” that they have to follow the laws deemed appropriate by their supreme authority – or they might lose their job and since God says they must provide… well, He’ll understand.
That’s an idol.
“Whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin” (Js. 4:17).
Therefore, as the abuse continues to escalate – and it will – you need to remember that God has given you a direct command to “flee from evil,” so if you don’t …
I can’t help you if your dead.
Don’t get me wrong. I will fight for you.
But only if you stand behind me and hold my arrows.
“He trains my hands for war, so that my arms can bend a bow of bronze” (Ps. 18:34).
I have and will call out the misgivings of the judicial system, the magistrate’s complacency, bad policy, misuse of funds, lying, conniving offenders, useless agencies, programming, and sentencing.
No to mention the seriously gross amount of animal shelters vs. DV shelters.
I have and will continue to stand up to the bullies of the church, institutions, agencies, magistrates, and justice system as a whole.
And I have no problem loudly proclaiming that stupid policy including lenient sentencing, lack of swift and consistent punishment, is unhealthy for society – and is far from Biblical justice:
“Strike a scoffer, and the simple (naïve) will learn prudence; reprove a man of understanding, and he will gain knowledge” (Pr. 19:25).
And I certainly have no problem calling out believers in positions of authority that are leading the least of these astray – or causing society as a whole to stumble.
“But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea” (Matt 18:6).
I will demand a report – but not before rolling my eyes, and overtly letting them know what an irresponsible and moronic statement they made after you layout your case before law enforcement officers and they answer with, “So, what do you want us to do?”
- My modern-day impersonation of My Lord kneeling down and drawing in the sand when people are doing/saying something incredibly stupid.
I will “take it before the church,” when they blow me off in a one-on-one “meeting” and refuse to hear the Biblical truth of their “profanity against the name of the Lord by failing to keep their oath.” (Lev. 5:1).
But don’t think for a minute that I’m going to let you slide –
If you want to heal – you need to change.
I have a profound fear of standing before a holy God when he asks:
“Holly. How did you ‘speak for my oppressed?’ How did you ‘seek justice? How did you teach the younger women?’”
I will take the heat – I truly have no fear of losing my earthly reputation. It will be whatever God determines it to be. Period.
“It is good for me that I was afflicted, that I might learn your statutes” (Ps. 119:71).
And it’s a HUGE but.
To win this fight – we must lose the complacency and fight.
We all must work together – as the church. As God’s elect “salt and light,” if we are ever to get this train back on the tracks.
Our Magistrates must understand that God’s laws are embedded into the U. S. Constitution – the very same Constitution that they have sworn an oath to uphold. And they sealed their fate by declaring this oath in the assembly, in the presence of the masses, before a holy and righteous God – Usually while placing their hand on His holy Word.
Therefore, we will hold you accountable to your oath. And that you will not profane the holy name of God Almighty:
“You shall not swear by my name falsely, and so profane the name of your God. I am Lord.” (Lev. 19:2).
Additionally, because you have determined to do this all by yourselves… to be slaves of the ungodly government rules of not working with (forsaking the brothers see the 2nd chapter of Acts) Christian organizations (non-profits) – you have therefore become a slave to the nation that hates the God you proclaim to serve.
Offenders must understand that they alone are responsible for their actions and when they fail – they must be punished according to God’s command.
So, one or the other will be the result: Salvation or death.
“For godly grief produces a repentance that leads to salvation without regret, whereas worldly grief produces death.” (2 Cor. 7:10).
Victims need to understand that the institution of marriage is not to become your idol, your identity, or your tomb.
But if you fail to obey the command of God and recognize the truth of Scripture: “A man of violence entices his neighbor and leads him in a way that is not good,” and that you have been commanded to “flee from evil,” you alone are responsible for those decisions… and the consequences.
“If your hand… foot… eye… causes you to sin, tear it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into hell, where their worm does not die and the fire is not quenched.” (Mk 9:45-49 para).
In addition, victims who do not cooperate with authorities and want to remain in a perpetual state of victimhood is not tolerable to a holy God. And we’re not going to stand by and let you do that either.
Victims who call 911 and refuse to testify – only to call 911 ten more times and still refuse to testify – but want a restraining order – then violate that same order – do not expect cooperation from your local law enforcement.
And neither will we. That’s an abuse of the system and a MAJOR part of the reason we are where we are.
You must face up to your part in entering and remaining in a relationship with the idiot you chose.
Forget your idolatrous idea that Jesus is going to wrap His righteous arms around your unrepenting self… It didn’t happen to the woman at the well – and He’s not going to allow you to skate by either.
Other non-profits – Well, if you’re not Christian, we have some use for you. But it is not to get your policy ideas, advice, or programming. Just stay in your lane and don’t tell us how to obey God’s holy laws.
If you are another Christian non-profit, we must work together. God in no way, anywhere in Scripture, does He tell us to be the “lone wolf.” We each have our own gifts and they complement – not compete – with one another. And they all bring glory to God alone.
And you ask “where am I going?
I will answer like William Wallace did in Braveheart:
I am going to pick a fight.